If your son attended a school-sponsored sexual education presentation in the last couple of months, use what he heard to make sure he understood what was said.
Teaching sexual education in the school is a challenge for boys.
- Often, the talks are given when boys are about a year away from being ready to hear the concepts. They are timed better for girls who enter puberty about a year before boys.
- There is often very little interaction or follow-up to confirm they understood the most important concepts.
- In most situations, there is only one sex education presentation and there is so much more to teach to make sure they are prepared to make wise choices for themselves.
- Families have their own standards and perspectives that they want their adolescents to embrace. This can be confusing to boys when they hear a little different perspective.
I would suggest that you check with your son’s school and find out what they are teaching your son about sexual topics. Take time over the next few months to have small talks (about 7 minutes or less) with your son and help him understand the topics that were discussed. This would also give you an opportunity to explain your family’s position on some of the controversial topics and why you think this way.
If you plan for small talks throughout the next few years, you can prepare him for the sexual challenges that are coming his way. Of course, there will be some resistance in the beginning, but it is worth the pushback to make sure your son has a healthy perspective on sexuality and his future.