If your son is an adolescent and in the midst of puberty, you probably reflect back upon the days when he was 5-7 years old as being an easier time. He looked forward to being with you and when you had something important to explain to him, he wanted to hear it. It is surprising to most parents when their son makes the transition to adolescence. There is a noticeable change in his emotions, and his response to them.
If you have a younger son, 5-7 years old, start now to set up weekly times to be alone with him. Make them fun times that include favorite treats or special outings. You are building a relationship that will be valuable for you and your son as he becomes an adolescent.
Here are some suggestions to help make these times special.
- Be there to listen and learn. There is so much more to find out about your young son if you ask great questions just listen to what he has to say.
- Explore how his friendships are going. Be patient and draw him out. He is young and is likely to have difficulty putting it all together. Especially explore if he feels uncomfortable with anyone.
- Don’t be too serious during this time. You can have great talks while you are hiking, riding bikes or just sharing an ice cream cone.
The discussions will likely change over the next months as your son begins to notice changes in his body. When he turns 8 years old, you might want to start going through my book, I’m a Boy, My Changing Body, to prepare him for puberty.