Although your adolescent is pushing for freedom, especially if they are a young teen, a loss of boundaries is going to make him or her feel insecure. Certainly, the boundaries must begin to change because they are not children anymore, but they still need them.
Here are a few suggestions in boundary-setting if you are raising an adolescent.
- Although it is often difficult for parents to realize their adolescent is growing up, make sure you determine boundaries that are age appropriate. Your child needs some freedom to test their desire for independence and learn from their choices.
- Carefully consider the boundary you are choosing. How will you enforce it? There are many options, but be careful not to be too tough because in their emotional state as an adolescent, they will suffer, and not learn from your discipline.
- Boundary-setting lets them know that you have their back. They will not thank you for the boundaries, but they will feel a little more secure in the midst of the teenage turmoil they are experiencing that you are in there with them.